I HONESTLY DON’T HAVE A PLAN FOR WHERE THIS POST IS GOING OR WHAT EXACTLY I WANT TO SHARE. THIS TOPIC HAS JUST BEEN SOMETHING ON MY MIND RECENTLY. I WANT TO SHARE A VERY REAL VIEW OF A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU GUYS. I KNOW I HAVE BEEN PORTRAYING THIS BEAUTIFUL PERFECT LIFE, BUT THAT'S WHAT EVERYONE DOES ON SOCIAL MEDIA. I’M HERE TO SHARE THAT IT IS TOTALLY FAKE. I LOVE TO HAVE A PERFECT LOOKING LIFE AND I DO THAT JUST BY SHARING THE GREAT PARTS. WHAT YOU DON’T SEE IS THE UNHAPPY TIMES. SO BECAUSE I WANT TO BE REAL WITH YOU GUYS (MY LIKE 3 READERS) TYLER AND I DON'T HAVE AN EASY RELATIONSHIP. IT TAKES A LOT OF WORK TO MAKE IT THROUGH. THERE ARE FIGHTS AND ARGUMENTS AND HURT FEELINGS. NONE OF THESE THINGS ARE FUN OR PRETTY, BUT THEY ARE IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP. YES THATS RIGHT, ITS IMPORTANT TO FIGHT AND ARGUE IN A RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU AREN’T THEN YOU ARE HOLDING BACK FROM YOUR PARTNER. IN MY EXPERIENCE IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO SAY WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND OR WHAT'S BOTHERING YOU INSTEAD OF HOLDING IT IN. WHILE IT MAY CAUSE AN ARGUMENT, AS LONG AS BOTH PEOPLE COMMUNICATE OPENLY, YOU’LL FIND THAT YOU CAN USUALLY COME TO A SOLUTION QUICKLY AND THAT YOU’LL FEEL CLOSER AS A COUPLE. THIS IS SOMETHING I’M STILL LEARNING. I TEND TO HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS IN A RELATIONSHIP, LOTS OF WHICH AREN’T FAIR TO EXPECT OF TYLER. BECAUSE I HAVE THESE EXPECTATIONS (WHICH I DON’T EVEN MENTION TO TYLER) WHEN I FEEL LIKE HE DOESN’T MEET THEM I GET UPSET. I KNOW IT’S TOTALLY UNFAIR. IT’S SOMETHING I’M LEARNING TO CHANGE ABOUT MYSELF AND ACCEPT THAT TYLER IS JUST AN IMPERFECT PERSON THAT I LOVE. WITH THIS VIEW IN MIND, HIS IMPERFECTIONS ARE SOMETHING I LOVE AND GIVES ME COMFORT THAT HE CAN ACCEPT MY IMPERFECTIONS AS WELL. I FEEL LIKE THIS IS STARTING TO GET TOO CHEESY AND I’M BEING TOO NEAT, SORRY. IN REALITY I GET MAD A LOT AND AM THE START OF MOST OF OUR FIGHTS. NOW THAT WE’RE A COUPLE MONTHS INTO OUR MARRIAGE I CAN TELL YOU THAT BEING MARRIED IS SO SO SO DIFFERENT THAN BEING IN A DATING RELATIONSHIP, EVEN IF YOU WERE COHABITING BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED. I THINK THERE’S JUST A DIFFERENT LEVEL OF COMMITMENT AND IT’S A HARD THING TO ADJUST TO. IN FACT BEING MARRIED FOR TYLER AND I HAS BEEN A BIG ADJUSTMENT AND WE’VE STRUGGLED IN FINDING HOW TO ADAPT. WE’RE SURVIVING IT. I THINK THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR ME TO SHARE BECAUSE LOTS OF OUR FRIENDS SAY THAT TYLER AND I ARE #GOALS. THIS CAN NOT ONLY BE A LOT OF PRESSURE TO PROVIDE A GOOD EXAMPLE OF A WORKING RELATIONSHIP, IT ALSO MAKES ME FEEL LIKE WE CAN’T HAVE STRUGGLES. SO I WANT TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT MARRIAGE ISN’T PERFECT OR EASY. IT’S HARD AND IT’S NOT PRETTY. NO MATTER HOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP WAS BEFORE THE MARRIAGE, IT IS GOING TO CHANGE. THIS CAN BE A SHOCK AND CAUSE A STRUGGLE. I CAN TELL THAT THE REST OF THIS FIRST YEAR FOR TYLER AND I WILL BE A LEARNING ONE. BUT WHEN I MARRIED THIS AMAZING MAN, I PROMISED TO BE IN IT FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. THIS COMMITMENT KEEPS ME STRONG AND MOTIVATES ME TO FIGHT FOR THIS AMAZING THING I HAVE. SO REALLY GUYS MARRIAGE IS AWESOME! SORRY FOR THE LONG RAMBLING POST, I JUST HAD TO SHARE MY THOUGHTS ON “PERFECT” RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW WE LOOK ON SOCIAL MEDIA VS REAL LIFE. THANKS TO ALL THOSE WHO ACTUALLY MADE IT THROUGH MY JUMBLED MESS OF THOUGHTS AND I HOPE YOU CAN FIND SOME VALUE IN IT.
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